"Man has achieved his present position by being the most aggressive and enterprising creature on earth. And now he has created a comfortable civilization, he faces an unexpected problem... The comfortable life lowers man's resistance, so that he sinks into an unheroic sloth... The comfortable life causes spiritual decay."
~ Colin Wilson
We exist in an age of abundance, yet many of us rot from within.
Never before has the civilized world been so well-fed, so sheltered, so free from the primal struggles that once defined existence—and never before has it been so consumed by misery, anger, and the biting angst of meaninglessness.
Absorbed in comfort, we are restless. Drowning in excess, we are hollow. The statistics confirm what our souls already know: despair has metastasized, anxiety has become our natural state, and in the absence of real suffering, we have made a spectacle of our own discontent.
Progress has delivered everything except the will to endure it.
It was Ernest Becker who pointed out: “...early men who were most afraid were those who were most realistic about their situation in nature, and they passed on to their offspring a realism that had a high survival value. The result was the emergence of man as we know him: a hyper-anxious animal who constantly invents reasons for anxiety even where there are none.”
In the United States alone, Depression rates have been steadily rising for decades. More than 40 million American adults are riddled with an anxiety disorder.
A 2018 Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics study noted increasing diagnoses of anxiety and depression in young kids who are often treated with a regimen of pharmaceuticals.
In 2022, total drug overdose deaths hit 106,600, with opioids dominating the death march.
The question must be asked: Why?
Why are so many people flogged with depression and angst in an era of infinite possibilities? Why are so many people prone to anxiety in the safest, most prosperous time in history? With endless potential to change and set our own destinies, why are so many of us crushed by bitterness and anger and pummeled with an agonizing sense of meaninglessness?
Freud defined depression as anger turned inwards. There’s some truth to this for sure, but I think the great existential psychologist Rollo May defined it more accurately: “Depression is the inability to construct a future.”
Anxiety, as Rollo May also pointed out, “is not being able to know the world you’re in, not being able to orient yourself in your own existence.”
Today, many people feel lost, disoriented, and bewildered in their lives and believe they are incapable of building their own futures.
I’ve encountered countless studies examining why so many people today feel lost, disconnected, and unsure of their purpose. Today, 44% of Americans feel overwhelmed by life's demands (APA, 2022).
Researchers often point to things like social isolation, excessive time spent on social media, and the overwhelming pace of modern life. And it’s not just a passing phase. These feelings are becoming more common, especially among younger generations, and they manifest as anxiety, depression, and a nagging sense that something vital is missing.
Carl Jung, one of the most prolific psychotherapists of the 20th century, remarked that about a third of his cases were suffering from “no clinically definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives. This can be defined as the general neurosis of our times.”
Why Has Modern Society Fallen into an Epidemic of Meaninglessness and Despair?
Perhaps the root of our malaise lies in the absence of true struggle. Where hardship once tested us and gave life urgency, comfort has left us adrift in our own minds. Without adversity, we’re denied the chance to prove ourselves, to carve out meaning through trial and effort.
We live behind cultural masks, disconnected from our authentic selves, while endless media consumption dulls our critical thinking and distorts reality into a benign spectacle. Chasing hollow ideals of success—status, luxury, appearances—we find ourselves empty, unfulfilled by the promises of a consumer-driven world.
We’ve severed our bond with nature, replacing vast landscapes with sterile office cubicles and screens, numbing ourselves with trivial distractions.
Our perspective has narrowed, caught in petty concerns and self-absorption, unable to see the larger picture. Instincts are repressed in favor of social conformity, while many passively wait for meaning to arrive from outside forces instead of forging it from within. And though technology connects us, it also isolates—building a wall between us and the raw, grounding forces that once shaped the human spirit.
Modernity is that abyss we ceaselessly strive to smother with superficial commotion.
We ravage every quiet moment with noise—podcasts, social media, the nonstop churn of news—anything to avoid stillness. Silence has become our nemesis, so we desecrate it with a constant stream of distraction. We scroll and consume until our minds are overloaded and our spirit feels mutilated, hollowed out by the very content meant to keep us entertained.
Though the digital world connects us like never before, it also tears us apart—driving us into isolation and a level of anger and alienation unmatched in human history.
As human beings, we were shaped by necessity. In those early, precarious days, survival meant coming together—forming tight-knit tribes, relying on each other, and adapting to the demands of the natural world. We depended on the land for food and shelter, learned to cooperate, and created tools and strategies to hunt, gather, and endure.
It was through this shared effort that we not only survived, but began to thrive. This is no longer the case. Today, we are displaced.
We’re wired for small, close-knit communities, but instead we’re lost in the chaos of a massive, impersonal society. It’s no wonder we’re struggling—this isn’t the environment we were built for. The cracks are everywhere. Just scroll through social media or read the comments on a political post, and you’ll see it: a storm of anger, hostility, and deep-rooted estrangement bubbling just beneath the surface.
Carl Jung understood this dilemma well when he wrote that “this new form of existence,” speaking of the modern mass society, “produced an individual who was unstable, insecure, and suggestible.”
Jung warned that if the individual is discounted and subordinated by society, he is vulnerable to the influence of the state and other mass movements to manipulate him into serving their devious agendas.
“The bigger the crowd, the more negligible the individual.”
Through sheer will and ingenuity, we have constructed a civilization of unparalleled comfort and abundance—a monument to progress, undeniable in its achievements. And yet, beneath this polished façade, something festers.
The culture of convenience, so lauded, does not elevate. It diminishes. The more we insulate ourselves from struggle, the more we shrink. In taming the world, we have tamed ourselves—dulling the edge of existence, reducing us to spectators of our own decay.
In the words of Dr. Tom Finucane:
“In our pursuit of better living we’ve allowed comfort to calcify our natural movements and strengths. Without conscious discomfort and purposeful exercise—a forceful push against comfort creep—we’ll only continue to become weaker and sicker.”
How can we overcome the pitfalls of emptiness and tap into our full potential as human beings?
I hesitate to offer answers to such a perplexing and paradoxical problem. I recall Chekhov's thought that a writer’s task is to pose the questions, not to settle them. All I can do is tilt a frail beam of light toward a path I dimly hope might guide us in the right direction.
Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning (1946):
“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.”
If we dare to look beyond the surface and listen to what psychology, philosophy, and science are trying to tell us, the message is clear: a life soaked in too much safety and comfort slowly erodes us. Comfort, in excess, dulls the spirit—and the longer we cling to it, the more we drift into a quiet, unnoticed decline.
If you’re constantly fleeing friction, you’re dying.
There’s no hope for a fruitful existence if you refuse to face the inevitable uncertainties of life. The more we shield ourselves from uncertainty, the more vulnerable we become. Each safeguard deepens the very void we seek to escape.
From a psychological vantage, evidence links discomfort and exertion to well-being. Eustress—stress of the beneficial sort—arises when we stretch our limits. A 2015 study by the American Psychological Association found that individuals who routinely undertake demanding activities, such as mastering a skill or solving complex problems, experience greater life satisfaction than those who linger in ease.
Sweat and Effort activate our sense of agency.
We feel alive, capable, and purposeful when we overcome something difficult. Contrast that with perpetual comfort: a 2019 study in The Journal of Positive Psychology found that people in overly cushy environments (mundane jobs, no heavy demands) often experience a drop in motivation and a creeping sense of emptiness. Comfort can numb us to the feedback loop of effort and reward that keeps us engaged.
Now, let’s look at it through a philosophical lens.
Nietzsche’s famous line, “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger,” isn’t just a catchy phrase to share on social media. It’s a rallying cry for embracing the suck and the struggle. Purpose emerges from striving against resistance, not from settling into ease. Get uncomfortable, uncivilize a bit, push your body, and do hard things, mentally and physically.
Similarly, Viktor Frankl wrote that purpose isn’t found in happiness or comfort but in suffering and responsibility. His logotherapy framework posits that humans thrive when they have a “why” to live for, often forged in hardship. A life too comfortable risks stripping us of that “why,” leaving us adrift like so many of us today.
On the scientific front, biology backs up the idea that discomfort and struggle strengthen organisms. Studies show that physical stressors like exercise or fasting trigger adaptive responses in our cells, boosting resilience and longevity. Mice exposed to mild stressors (e.g., temperature changes) outlived their pampered counterparts. Apply that to humans: a 2021 study in Nature Aging linked regular physical challenge—hiking, running, lifting weights—to sharper cognition and emotional vitality in older adults.
The brain and body seem wired for struggle. Too much ease, the body and spirit stagnate. In the words of Khalil Gibran:
Verily the lust for comfort murders the passion of the soul, and then walks grinning in the funeral.
Conclusion
A life without the suffering that comes with deliberate struggle is a life of surrender.
Not because suffering is sacred in itself but because it is the only force that keeps the wolves of stagnation at bay. Comfort is an insidious poison that dulls the edge of the mind, withers the will, and renders the soul lethargic, indifferent to its own decline.
Nietzsche saw this truth with fierce clarity: only those who live dangerously, who throw themselves into the abyss of effort and uncertainty, truly live at all.
To seek the disease of ease is to conspire in one’s own diminishment. To evade hardship is to reject the very crucible that forms something greater than the pitiable creature that merely survives, fattened on security and stripped of fire.
To truly live—rather than merely exist—one must reject the illusion of safety and embrace the uncertainty that defines life. Growth, passion, and fulfillment lie beyond the walls of comfort, in the unpredictable terrain of risk and self-discovery.
When we prioritize security above all else, we sever ourselves from our deepest instincts, reducing life to a mechanical routine devoid of vitality.
The mind, clinging to logic and predictability, suppresses the heart’s natural pull toward adventure. In our obsessive quest for control—rigid plans, insurance policies, the sterile rituals of modern life—we betray life’s inherent dynamism.
To restore our vitality, we must let go of the craving for absolute certainty and dare to enter the unknown, where life’s true energy and renewal await. In the words of Joseph Campbell, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
When we venture beyond the familiar, something stirs within us—a renewed sense of aliveness, a spark of possibility. Fear begins to loosen its grip as we embrace uncertainty, finding in it the thrill of growth and discovery. This willingness to risk comfort for transformation sharpens our minds and strengthens our spirits, turning life from a routine into a living adventure.
To be alive now is to stand on the edge of that adventure, with every breath a step closer to the end—and yet, also a chance to begin. In this fleeting, precious moment, we are faced with a choice: to answer the call, confront the challenges that forge us into something more, or to retreat into safety and live only half a life.
The invitation is clear—to awaken, to become, and to live boldly before the final breath calls us home.
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